Remember when you we're dating the man of your dreams? Remember how your face lit up when he walked into the room? Or how just hearing his voice over the phone would send you head spinning? Remember how he made you feel like there was no other woman alive?
Now it's been two years of marriage and the smells that emulate from him are not natural. His dresser? Oh, that's the pile of clothes next to the bed. It's no secret that relationships - all relationships - are difficult to be successful, most of all a marriage relationship. I mean, everyday you're with that person & everyday you see that person's true colors.
So what happened between the pre and post "I do"? Did he turn into a different person? How did our marriage turn into a verbal boxing match? In the book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Julianna Slattery talks about how every man wants one thing. To be someone's hero. Can you believe that just about everything falls second to this desire?
Could it be that our focus changed? No longer does he light up my room when he walks in. No longer can he send my head spinning when he calls. Instead I'd rather tell my girlfriends everything he does wrong.
For the next few weeks, focus on all the wonder things that first took your breath away. Find small things he does and sincerely voice your appreciation. Let him know you love it when he helps with the kids or when he offers to make dinner. Think of ways to brag to other people about him...in his ear shot.
Try it. You may be surprised at who walks through the door.
This post is dedicated to Matt, my true Superman. Thanks for doing the dishes this morning.
